Nobody's Real

I'm beginning to learn not to trust people... I mean in high school, I trusted three people, Chris, Dave, and AJ, and that was it. No one else. I wasn't very close to anybody at church other than Dave... But of course that's all changed. I'm no longer friends with AJ, I don't trust Dave because of our past - although I have forgiven him (doesn't mean I have to trust him again just yet), Chris isn't even Chris anymore, and I've formed VERY close friendships with most everybody else.

What I am learning is that as much as you think you have someone pegged, give it a week and you'll find that you were totally wrong about them.

I put too much faith in PEOPLE. People, who are destined to make mistakes... On the one hand, I find it really sad and disturbing that you cannot trust Christian friends, but on the other hand I know that people are inherently flawed. No one person is perfect and Jesus died for that EXACT reason. Because we are NOT perfect, we were destined to suffer, so he suffered for us, so that even though we aren't perfect, we can still enter the kingdom of heaven.

The problem lies within the lack of communication, rational thinking, or striving for a reasonable solution to the quarrel.

When you have a problem with somebody, you should speak to them DIRECTLY, first and foremost. I think it's ok to discuss situations with close friends while seeking advice or prayer, but to go behind a friends back and talk about them, and then turn around and talk to that person and totally contradict the things that you just said, that's called being two faced.

I understand that you might be concerned about how they might take critical judgement, but when you've known somebody for an extended amount of time, and they consider you to be practically family, there is no reason why you can't be painfully honest and just work through it with a short bit of tough conversation. It hurts the person WAY more when they catch wind of it behind their back...

All of this is a MAJOR diversion from what my post started out to be, so don't relate the first half to the second, they don't have anything to do with each other. I started typing and this is what came out.

All that said, I'm 100% willing to GET OVER problems right now, extending a disagreement is nothing more than a waste of time.