Playing the Blame Game

Ruth and I are at odds right now. She appears to think there is nothing wrong with her marijuana habit, and I believe that there IS something inherently wrong with a CHRISTIAN to be smoking weed.

She attacked my ethics on friendship.

She called me a hypocrite and said that I'm self righteous.

*cracks knuckles*

I'm pissed off now. That is BULL SHIT.

Originally, this whole thing started with AJ. He found out about Ruth trying weed for her first time and became extremely worried. She called him a hypocrite because of his habits.

He called her mom and talked to her about it... That was a step over the line, yes...

So I stood up for her, I turned against someone who has been my friend for a long time, one of my original high school pals... Yeah, he was making some BIG mistakes with his life, and for Ruth to think that I never gave him a hard time about what HE did, and does, would be stupid. So I hope she doesn't think that.

AJ is no longer my friend. He had his head in the storm clouds for a long time, and when he started giving Ruth a hard time, I took her side and gave up my friendship with him, FOR Ruth.

I initially talked to Ruth on the phone about her smoking weed the first time, she said she knows she shouldn't have and said she wouldn't do it again... then she did it again. I talked to her again about it, told her I really wasn't trying to give her a hard time and I didn't want to piss her off... she said she understood where I was coming from...

So I sat and watched a good friend post in her BLOG about getting stoned, and this last time she posted about it, I broke. I got pissed. I gave up a friendship for this shit? To find out that AJ had every reason to worry in the first place?

I'm not worried about her dropping out of school like he was... I'm worried about her talking herself into thinking that weed is acceptable. Oh, she already has.

Ruth, it's NOT ok, I love you as a friend Ruth, as a sister, but God, how can you expect me to not be bothered by this? Would you REALLY consider me a good friend for letting you make this mistake without at least TRYING to talk you out of it?

I said it already but I'll bring it back up, I'm not worried about you dropping out, I know you won't, I know you have your heart set on your future... but what if, what if you're CAUGHT? You'll be expelled. You'll be arrested. Everything you've worked so hard for will come crashing down if you're caught.

IF.

Change happens, yes, I know Ruth... But there are two different types of change.

There's growth, where you learn and become wise...

Then there's succumbing to temptations and desires and curiousity, which is NOT wise.

I'm sure that later down the road you'll have grown from this experience and realised it was a mistake Ruth, we ALL have our moments like that in life, but when you have people trying to reason with you and get you to kick the habit early, why won't you reason BACK?

Start looking at YOURSELF, Ruth, from someone elses eyes.

Oh, and if you think that I have no place to "judge" you or whatever because I'm not perfect either, then I have a question...

Why haven't you said anything to me about my problems? I'd want a friend to pull me aside and be like "Dude, what are you thinking? Come on, you need to get your act together..."

No one does it until they feel like I'm backing them into a corner though.

Christians should NOT battle with each other Ruth, we should be EXPECTED to hold each other accountable for our actions, I ALWAYS call people out on their iniquities, but why doesn't anyone ever try to talk to me about mine? Hmm?

Think about it. Just think... I don't want to lose yor friendship Ruth, but you're the one whose not willing to accept a person for who they are, because this is who I am.

Ruth is not a Stoner. It's not you, Ruth! Take if from your TRUE friends back in Singapore! Read that comment that one of them left! They want RUTH NAIR back! We all do, Ruth, why are you becoming "Stoner Ruth"? What for? What is it going to accomplish??